WHY CAN'T I BE MORE LOVING? (from the Shut Up Book)

(www.shutupguru.com)

Why Can’t I Be More Loving?
BECAUSE YOU CAN’T! Why can’t you
understand that? You’re as loving as you can be,
and that’s it! You’re always trying to buck the
tide, always wanting everything to be different
than what it is. That’s what makes you so miserable–
your chronic unhappiness about what is,
what’s happening in your life. You constantly
want it to be different. Open your eyes, all your
eyes–see with a little contentment. It’s not better
anywhere else but HERE.

You’re always battling with love. You
want to love more, you want to be in love, you
want everyone to love each other, you want
everyone to love Mother Earth, you want the
world to be made of love, act like love and hopefully
(there’s that word again) become love.
You’re infatuated with love. You might as well be
infatuated with a Halloween mask. It’s the same
difference.

Love to you is an object, something to
aspire to, something to possess, something to
become. Again, it’s a crazy notion that someone
stuck in your head and you’re so charmed by it,
it’s kept you stuck forever. Let me help unglue
you. Love is not an object, not something you
can become. It’s You. It’s your very Nature. It’s
the stuff that everything is made of. You’re
already love, so you can stop trying to become it.
Don’t you get it????? Let me repeat: YOU ARE
LOVE. Period.

Don’t think about it. Just relax, take a
breath, be still, and stop this incessant search for
love. It’s just plain dumb, and you’re very intelligent.
Your search for love has brought you nothing
but disappointment. Tell me, has love ever
satisfied you? It’s so fickle, it changes so often,
and you can’t ever get enough of it. It always
leaves you wanting, longing, and praying for
relief.

When was the last time you were in love,
in that hunger of love? It took over your entire
system, and for what? Only to be crying and
moaning with disappointment later. From your
boyfriends and girlfriends, to your husbands and
wives, to your parents, to your children and even
to your Guru–you’ve been agonizing about love.

Enough already! Wipe your tears! You’ve been
banging your head against the wall and forgot to
put the timer on so you could remember to stop.
I am Here. I’m your timer. STOP! IT’S
ENOUGH! Love is not an emotion, it’s not your
latest thought or fantasy. It is your very Nature.
You are Love. Now repeat after me, again and
again and again, “Love is my very Nature. I am
Love.”

It’s amazing what happens when you recognize
who you are. You begin to have some
peace in your life. You stop trying to convince
yourself and the world about what they “should
be doing” to become more loving. You recognize
that they are love and that becomes the grounds
for true communication. You begin to love from
a different perspective. You stop trying to convince
everybody to love you. You become free of
the chains of love and become a beacon of love.

You can’t help it. No effort. It’s your Nature.
It may sometimes appear as if you can’t
stand someone or something, but honestly, it’s
on the very surface, like dust on your computer.

You may react negatively to someone, but it’s the
circumstances of that situation. In truth, you are
love to each other, and all your shouting and
rude words and actions fall flat in the face of
LOVE. So, be easy. Don’t fret about your challenges
with love. It’s only your playful concern
made into a big deal.

Be sweet with yourself. Love is
inevitable… Sorry, there’s no getting away from
it. It follows you wherever you go. You don’t
have to search for it or confuse yourself with it.
It just is, like your lovely eyes. My darlings, how
can I tell you how much I love you? Oh, Love,
sweet love, so charming and so completely YOU.

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Written about 2 months ago ·  · 

Maven Huggins

Maven Huggins 

“it is what it is” i am only as I can be
that is great
May 16 at 9:42pm ·  · 
Jeff Gregory

Jeff Gregory 

Dvorahji, I believe that your love and words changed my life this weekend, and I am forever grateful. You are so right – what if she never arrives? So what! I have tons of stuff to do in this life. And I am sure lots of friends will appear. For now, the most special friend has appeared, and that is you. Thank you, Dvorahji, for seeing my heart.
May 16 at 10:00pm ·  · 
Caitlin Johnstone

Caitlin Johnstone 

I love this. Ha! x
May 16 at 10:14pm ·  · 
Anna Novikov

Anna Novikov 

This reminds me of an “experience” I had when I was 24 (so few I can list them) — I was at a retreat with my ex, arguing (haha), when suddenly his head disappeared — literally, and all that was left was this incredible love that we are. Hard to argue when you step into infinity’s eyes. Interestingly enough, the same thing was being experienced by… See More
May 16 at 11:50pm ·  · 
Dvorahji Dvorah Adler

Dvorahji Dvorah Adler 

one of those great headless moments! Wish my ex-husband’s head had dissappeared more often…
May 16 at 11:57pm ·  · 
Anna Novikov

Anna Novikov 

Tee hee! Mine lived in the head — a philosopher, and moments like this kindof freaked him out back then. Can’t say anything about now…People change….
May 17 at 12:01am ·  · 
Dvorahji Dvorah Adler

Dvorahji Dvorah Adler 

I think many of us had some real strange experience back then…it was the beginning of the love/enlightenment revolution….We were buds then…I remember being married, about 20 years old, and swimming in this pool by myself (hadn’t begun meditating then) and suddenly while I was swimming I heard this huge breathing, I got scared I didn’t knowwhat it was. I looked around to see where that huge massive breath was coming from…and it was me breathing me! really wierd and it got wierder from there untiI I met Maharishi and then it got really wierd. Thank God those experiences came & went!
May 17 at 12:14am ·  · 
Anna Novikov

Anna Novikov 

Well, maybe your experiences were weirder than mine were — I wouldn’t mind a few nowadays (: Like I’d love to be able to wave my fingers around, do some chanting, and transform this house into completely downsized, & ready to sell in 5 minutes….
May 17 at 12:19am ·  · 
Dvorahji Dvorah Adler

Dvorahji Dvorah Adler 

Try doing it without waving…
May 17 at 12:22am ·  · 
Caitlin Johnstone

Caitlin Johnstone 

Brings a new meaning to head over heels 🙂 !!
May 17 at 1:03am ·  · 
Vinod Kurumathurmadam Mony

May 17 at 3:36am ·  · 
Patricia Pashia D'souza

Patricia Pashia D’souza 

De-light-full
May 17 at 5:10am ·  · 
Anna Novikov

Anna Novikov 

Workin’ on it! LOL
May 17 at 7:23am ·  · 
Anna Novikov

Anna Novikov 

Heavy breathing, eh????? (:
May 17 at 7:23am ·  · 
Kiki Kathryn Ciesielski

Kiki Kathryn Ciesielski 

I love you more!
May 17 at 3:05pm ·  · 

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